{"id":483,"date":"2020-08-28T11:36:23","date_gmt":"2020-08-28T10:36:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.humansofcode.org\/?p=483"},"modified":"2025-02-10T02:34:29","modified_gmt":"2025-02-10T02:34:29","slug":"if-it-makes-you-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humansofcode.org\/es\/wellbeing\/if-it-makes-you-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"If It Makes You Happy&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As Happiness Happens Month draws to a close, I wanted to take some time to reflect on some of the things that have made me happy this month.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Originally, I\u2019d planned to write about the guilt of happiness, but it seemed contradictory to be talking about <em>not<\/em> being happy, <em>acerca de<\/em> being happy. I find it difficult to be openly happy when others are so openly <em>un<\/em>happy. It feels to <em>me<\/em> a bit like metaphorically screaming it in someone\u2019s face, and that makes me incredibly uncomfortable. However, having deep-dived into this, I\u2019ve come to realise that this is most likely linked to anxiety and depression, and the expectation that if something good happens, it\u2019ll soon be taken away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For those of us who have been working from home for the last (almost) six months, in many ways it feels like time has stood still. And for many of us experiencing mental health issues, it\u2019s given us a lot of quiet time with our own thoughts that we weren\u2019t prepared for. Over the last couple of weeks, I\u2019ve felt the wave of depression rolling up, ready to come crashing down on me again. It\u2019s probably been inevitable. This year has been a voyage of self-discovery on a stormy sea for many of us..<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The thought of writing a closing post for Happiness Happens Month wasn\u2019t something I was rushing to do. However, I thought it would be a good time to reflect on some of the things that have made me happy in August.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>Seeing my family for the first time in six months. I really needed this! One of the things I love most is the time spent just being silly with my nieces and nephew. Also, I cannot forget about Seamus! Seamus is my sister\u2019s dog. And in case it hasn\u2019t been clear enough in previous posts, I <strong>LOVE<\/strong> dogs!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Dogs! Dogs are the best! Anyone who says dogs shouldn\u2019t have their own social media account is wrong.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><em>Finally<\/em> getting the Japanese Royal Milk Tea I ordered 5 months ago!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Having the time to have some really excellent conversations with friends.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Regular humans of code calls! We\u2019ve had pretty much weekly Zoom calls since the beginning of lockdown. Given that we were essentially three strangers at the beginning of this, I think it\u2019s a true testament to our commitment to making this work.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Getting a haircut! Oh my word, that was long overdue! I just got that done this morning, so I\u2019m still enjoying my head feeling lighter and cooler than it has done in months!<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>My four year old niece, doing a <strong>ridiculous<\/strong> dance on TikTok! This makes me laugh <strong>too<\/strong> much!\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Some of these things seem trivial in the grand scheme of things. I think that\u2019s where a lot of my guilt about being happy comes from. What I always try to keep in mind though, is that it\u2019s all relative. What seems trivial to one person, might be the only good thing that happened to someone else in a long time. We don\u2019t know what\u2019s going on in anyone else\u2019s head, so if having a nice cup of tea is what makes you happy, then go ahead and enjoy it! Then have another one. Sometimes you\u2019ve just got to do whatever it takes to get you through the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I find it really useful to reflect on what\u2019s happened over the last few weeks, as I often get mentally stuck on one thing that annoyed me, or something that didn\u2019t go as planned. Reflecting on the things that have made me happy has led me to instagram to watch the video of my 9 year old niece realising I\u2019d crept into her house to surprise her. It reminded me of some of the conversations I\u2019ve had with friends. It made me go off and watch that video on TikTok again! It made me send a cute puppy pic to someone. And these things have made me happy all over again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Reflection also helps me to put all the other stuff into perspective. Who cares if someone was a bit of arse? I\u2019m not going to let the actions of one person impact my mood. Well\u2026.. I\u2019m certainly going to <em>try<\/em> not to!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I hope you can think of a few things that have brought you happiness recently. They can be all too easy to forget. When they do happen though, make a note of them. It doesn\u2019t matter how small they are. Sometimes the smallest things can have the biggest impact.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Take care of yourselves!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Debi&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As Happiness Happens Month draws to a close, I wanted to take some time to reflect on some of the things that have made me happy this month. Originally, I\u2019d planned to write about the guilt of happiness, but it seemed contradictory to be talking about not being happy, about being happy. I find it [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":481,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"slim_seo":{"title":"If It Makes You Happy... - humans of code","description":"As Happiness Happens Month draws to a close, I wanted to take some time to reflect on some of the things that have made me happy this month. 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