{"id":862,"date":"2021-09-01T03:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-08-31T19:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.humansofcode.org\/?p=862"},"modified":"2025-01-09T05:13:32","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T05:13:32","slug":"tw-we-need-to-talk-about-suicide","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humansofcode.org\/es\/wellbeing\/tw-we-need-to-talk-about-suicide\/","title":{"rendered":"TW: We need to talk about Suicide."},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Trigger warning: This post discusses suicidal feelings<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is absolutely no point in trying to dress it up to make it comfortable and easy to talk about. We <em>should<\/em> feel uncomfortable about it. It\u2019s the biggest silent killer affecting us today.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Globally, each year, around 800,000 people die by suicide. That\u2019s one person every 40 seconds. And for every suicide death, there will have been a further 20 people who have attempted to end their lives. In the UK, men account for 75% of deaths by suicide. On average, 135 people will know each of those people. The effects of suicide are far reaching, and that\u2019s why we all need to do our bit to help prevent it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Suicide is a complex subject. There are many risk factors that can lead to someone experiencing suicidal thoughts and behaviours, The World Health Organisation has classified these into the different groups below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list is-style-default\">\n<li>Societal\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Difficulties accessing or receiving care<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Access to means of suicide<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Inappropriate media reporting<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Stigma associated with mental health, substance abuse or suicidal behaviour which prevents people from seeking help<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Comunidad\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Poverty<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Experiences of trauma or abuse<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Experiences of disaster, war or conflict<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Experiences of discrimination<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Relationships\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Isolation and lack of support<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Relationship breakdown<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Loss or conflict<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Individual\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Previous suicide attempts<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Self-harm behaviours<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mental ill-health<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Drug and alcohol misuse<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Financial loss<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Chronic pain<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Family history of suicide<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most of us have probably experienced at least one of these in the past, whether it be the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, self-harm or alcohol misuse, and fortunately, many of us come out of it relatively unscathed. However, this isn\u2019t always the case, and that\u2019s when it becomes a more serious issue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There\u2019s no point in us thinking that if we don\u2019t talk about suicide, it just won\u2019t happen. It happens. So instead we need to ask ourselves the question, \u201cWhat can I do to help prevent it from happening in the future?\u201d.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As mentioned earlier, men are three times more likely to take their own lives than women. Why is this? Society expects men to be strong, dependable and able to provide for their family. We each need to play our part in adjusting the stereotypical societal concept of masculinity. We need to encourage men to be more open and vulnerable without fear of repercussions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Men are shaming <em>themselves<\/em> for not living up to societal standards. These stereotypes of what it means to be a man are outdated and fall under the category of \u2018Toxic Masculinity\u2019, for example, suppressing vulnerable emotions, bullying and violence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">How we respond to conversations about suicide and mental health are critical. We need to normalise talking about it. We need to break the stigma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It\u2019s critically important that if someone has the courage to open up and show us their vulnerabilities, that we recognise that. Just take a moment to think about it. Imagine you were at such a low point in your life, that you believed that the world would be a better place without you in it. That nobody would notice if you weren\u2019t around anymore. That you\u2019re a burden and you\u2019re dragging everyone down. That your loved ones would be better off without you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Imagine overcoming <em>all of that<\/em> to reach out to someone in your darkest moment to ask for help. That isn\u2019t someone who\u2019s attention seeking. That is someone who is fighting for their life. If someone was in hospital on life support, you wouldn\u2019t hit the \u2018Off\u2019 switch to check if they were faking it. Just because you can\u2019t see what it is that\u2019s happening, doesn\u2019t make it any less real.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This person has at some point had suicidal thoughts. And now they\u2019re choosing to lay themselves bare, risking opening themselves up to criticism, but ultimately asking for your support. They\u2019re opening up to you because they trust you. Acknowledge that. Don\u2019t judge. Thank them for trusting you and confiding in you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Give them the space they need to be completely open about, and talk about, whatever they need to. Ask them how they\u2019re <em>realmente<\/em> doing. Are they struggling with anything they haven\u2019t told you about? Reassure them that there\u2019s nothing wrong with how they\u2019re feeling and what they\u2019re thinking. Their feelings are completely valid. Be present, be patient and be supportive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Remember it takes someone huge amounts of courage to open up like this. Feel honoured that they chose you, and show them compassion and understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is just a look into what we as individuals can begin to do to help break the stigma of discussing suicide. If you or anyone you know is having suicidal thoughts, then I urge you to speak to someone about it. If your life is in danger, then call 999 or go to A&amp;E.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A list of useful resources can be found<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nhs.uk\/conditions\/suicide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\"> here<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Look after yourselves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Debi &lt;3<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Trigger warning: This post discusses suicidal feelings There is absolutely no point in trying to dress it up to make it comfortable and easy to talk about. We should feel uncomfortable about it. It\u2019s the biggest silent killer affecting us today.&nbsp; Globally, each year, around 800,000 people die by suicide. 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