{"id":653,"date":"2021-11-19T11:00:50","date_gmt":"2021-11-19T03:00:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.humansofcode.org\/?p=653"},"modified":"2022-04-28T13:48:55","modified_gmt":"2022-04-28T05:48:55","slug":"happy-international-mens-day-2021","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humansofcode.org\/fr\/news\/happy-international-mens-day-2021\/","title":{"rendered":"Bonne journ\u00e9e internationale de l'homme 2021 !"},"content":{"rendered":"

Happy International Men\u2019s Day! A glorious day for us all to celebrate the wonderful men in our lives! Tell them how important they are to you. Tell them how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Tell them how much better they make your life! And if you\u2019re anything like me, you\u2019ll really enjoy making people feel uncomfortable (and suspicious!) by being nice to them, so really go for it! Don\u2019t hold back! It\u2019s not every day you have a legitimate reason to tell guys how much they mean to you without raising a few eyebrows (or the assumption that you want to borrow money or need a lift somewhere. That\u2019s the usual response everyone gets from their dad, right?!)<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not gonna lie, the first time I heard that International Men\u2019s Day was a real thing, I assumed it was some sort of joke in response to there being an International Women\u2019s Day. But within about two minutes of actually doing some fact-checking, I learned what it was really about, and it\u2019s been an important date in my diary ever since. I\u2019ll talk more about this shortly.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As I\u2019ve already been discussing this month, November is a month dedicated to raising awareness of men\u2019s health. We\u2019ve all heard of Movember, right? I had thought it was just a fun bit of wordplay for some guys growing a \u2018tache for cash. I was wrong about that too! Movember is also \u201cthe leading global organisation committed to changing the face of men\u2019s health\u201d. And on behalf of <\/span>humains du code<\/b>, I\u2019m currently raising money for Movember by walking 60km in November, which you can <\/span>donate<\/span><\/a> to. Don\u2019t worry, I\u2019ll remind you again at the end of this post!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anyway, back to International Men\u2019s Day (IMD). The 6 Pillars of IMD are:<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. To promote positive male role models<\/span><\/li>
  2. To celebrate men\u2019s positive contributions to society<\/span><\/li>
  3. To focus on men\u2019s health and wellbeing<\/span><\/li>
  4. To highlight discrimination against men<\/span><\/li>
  5. To improve gender relations and promote gender equality<\/span><\/li>
  6. To create a safer, better world<\/span><\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Something we talk about frequently at <\/span>humains du code<\/b>, is the shocking statistic that in the UK, three out of four suicides are male. And globally, every year, we lose around 800,000 men to suicide. That\u2019s one preventable male death every minute of every day. According to World Health Organisation data, suicide is the biggest killer of men under the age of forty-five.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Undoubtedly, society\u2019s expectations of men and outdated gender stereotypes have a role to play in men\u2019s mental health. Men are generally expected to be strong, aggressive, courageous, assertive, independent, knights in shining armour. They are hunter-gatherers. They\u2019re the bread-winners. They provide us with food and shelter. They beat their chests and go off and investigate the noise downstairs in the dead of night.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Hmm\u2026 this all sounds a lot like the plot to some sort of fairytale, where a prince charges in on his trusty steed and rescues his woman from a life of bare-footed laundry and not being invited to parties. Then much to his family\u2019s dismay, he marries this poor girl and they live happily ever after. Yawn.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Maybe she didn\u2019t need to be rescued. Maybe the prince fancied her brother. What if she was a happy, indoorsy introvert? What if <\/span>he<\/span><\/i> wanted to wear a dress to the ball? Maybe neither of them were interested in the concept of marriage. These are the gender stereotypes pushed on us from the beginning. It\u2019s little wonder we grow up with these unfounded expectations of a \u2018happy ever after\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    These stereotypes can be incredibly damaging. They can leave people feeling like an absolute failure at life if they\u2019re not achieving the things society expects of them. A house, a car, married by 30, great career, 2.4 children, a wide circle of friends, dinner parties\u2026 The \u2018perfect\u2019 life. If that\u2019s what you have, and you\u2019re happy – excellent! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    A huge number of us are struggling to just get through the day most of the time. Out of milk, no clean underwear, where do all the spoons go?! Oops\u2026 another birthday\u2019s been forgotten about! Awkward. And I imagine this list goes on when you have kids! These things don\u2019t make you a failure. They make you human.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    It\u2019s ok to ask for help. It\u2019s ok to cry. It\u2019s ok to feel emotions. It’s ok to be vulnerable. It\u2019s ok to not be the highest earner in your household. It\u2019s ok to care. It\u2019s ok to tell people they\u2019re important to you.<\/span> It\u2019s ok to tell people what you need. Not only are these things ok, they\u2019re perfectly normal and should be encouraged.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Humans. I implore you to banish these stereotypes to history! Let\u2019s look at those 6 pillars of IMD again. Is there something there you can do today to celebrate International Men\u2019s Day? What about reaching out and telling someone why he\u2019s special to you? And here\u2019s a wild idea – why don\u2019t you remind yourself what\u2019s great about <\/span>you<\/span><\/i>?! If you can\u2019t think of anything, then maybe it\u2019s because you\u2019re so modest. Maybe you\u2019re someone who\u2019s just out there, selflessly doing your best for everyone else without giving yourself a second thought.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    This is a subject that we at <\/span>humains du code<\/b> are hugely passionate about, and I could happily talk about it for days. But it\u2019s also pretty huge, and so we want to break it down and give it the attention it deserves. Toxic masculinity, What is gender, What does it mean to be a man, Why phrases such as \u2018boys will be boys\u2019 and \u2018man up\u2019 are so damaging and need to be reclaimed. This is a <\/span>huge<\/span><\/i> subject.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Liberating men from these perceived masculine ideals is the most effective way to help <\/span>everyone<\/span><\/i>. We\u2019re all on the same team.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Happy International Men\u2019s Day! Here\u2019s to you, wonderful menfolk of the world! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Debi <3<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    P.S. There\u2019s still time to help me reach my target for Move-ember! Globally we lose around 800,000 men each year to suicide. That\u2019s one man every minute. That\u2019s 800,00 men too many. I\u2019m walking 60 km this Movember for the 60 men we lose to suicide every hour. If you would like to donate to Movember, you can do so <\/span>here<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

    Thank you!<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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