{"id":888,"date":"2021-10-01T00:32:19","date_gmt":"2021-09-30T16:32:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/test.humansofcode.org\/?p=888"},"modified":"2025-01-09T05:11:27","modified_gmt":"2025-01-09T05:11:27","slug":"tw-suicide-prevention-lets-keep-talking-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/humansofcode.org\/ja\/wellbeing\/tw-suicide-prevention-lets-keep-talking-2\/","title":{"rendered":"TW: Suicide Prevention. Let&#8217;s keep talking."},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As September draws to a close, the seasons change and the leaves begin to fall from the trees, we are reminded that nothing lasts forever. The seagulls who had once taken up residence next to my bedroom window seem to have finally moved on, and \u201cthe nights are fair drawing in\u201d.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It also marks the end of Suicide Prevention Month. The wider focus on it might disappear for another year, however the conversation absolutely&nbsp;<em>must<\/em>&nbsp;carry on, particularly at a time when so many people are continuing to struggle with the social isolation we\u2019re all experiencing right now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019ve talked previously about how our response to someone in crisis is critical. Suicide is too sensitive and too serious a subject to assume that the person confiding in you is \u201cjust doing it for attention\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Having been in a position a number of times when a person\u2019s actions or words have caused me enough concern that I felt compelled to ask them the question \u201chave you been thinking about suicide?\u201d, I can completely understand how anyone might feel ill-prepared for asking someone this, and even more so for the answer you might receive. Using the word&nbsp;<strong>suicide<\/strong>&nbsp;might seem overwhelming, but it\u2019s important that there\u2019s no margin for error in your understanding of what\u2019s going on in that person\u2019s mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The best thing to do is to have a plan. Prepare yourself.&nbsp; Regardless of the outcome, it\u2019s always good to have some organisations in mind.&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.samaritans.org\/scotland\/how-we-can-help\/contact-samaritan\/talk-us-phone\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Samaritans<\/a>&nbsp;is a nice easy one \u2013 most people have heard of it and they can be contacted by either phone or email, any time of the day or night.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Also bear in mind that if someone is in immediate danger, they will require urgent professional help. But what exactly does immediate danger look like? It can be a number of things, such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul style=\"padding-left:var(--wp--preset--spacing--10)\" class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>Reckless behaviour, putting themselves in harms way&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Self-harm<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Drug overdose<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Actively planning suicide<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Writing a suicide note<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Other red flags can be in what they\u2019re saying. Sadly, many of these things are too often dismissed as being attention-seeking behaviour. Listen out for things like:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul style=\"padding-left:var(--wp--preset--spacing--10)\" class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>\u201cI can\u2019t do this anymore\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cNo one would miss me\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cThe world would be a better place without me\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cThere\u2019s nothing left for me anymore\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cIt\u2019s too late for me\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If someone is in danger, then the steps to take are:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul style=\"padding-left:var(--wp--preset--spacing--10)\" class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>Call the emergency services<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Remove all means of self-harm<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Do not leave them alone<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Wait for the police or ambulance to arrive<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Let the professionals take over.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you don\u2019t know what to say to someone in a mental health crisis \u2013 think of what you might need to hear if you were in their shoes. We\u2019re all human after all. Here are some examples:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul style=\"padding-left:var(--wp--preset--spacing--10)\" class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>\u201cYou\u2019re not alone, and it\u2019s important that you know that\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ve got time to talk; you have my full attention\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cTake as long as you need; I\u2019m here for you\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u2018I\u2019m not going anywhere\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cRemember when you were there for me? Let me be there for you now\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cI hate to see you struggling alone. Talk to me\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And when emotions are running high, there are some straightforward actions you can take:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul style=\"padding-left:var(--wp--preset--spacing--10)\" class=\"wp-block-list is-style-list-halo-bullet\">\n<li>Be patient and really listen to what they\u2019re saying<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Take them to a safe place (away from other people)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Assure them that they are safe<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Tell them you\u2019re not going anywhere. You are there for them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don\u2019t leave them alone<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Remind them of something positive in their life<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Set a time and day to talk again.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These are all very straightforward, very human things to do. And should you ever find yourself in a situation like this, you would doubtless do them anyway. Because we\u2019re only human after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">From the team at&nbsp;<strong>\u30b3\u30fc\u30c9\u306e\u4eba\u9593<\/strong>, look after yourselves, look after each other, and if you are in crisis,&nbsp;<em>please<\/em>&nbsp;reach out for the help you deserve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be kind<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u30c7\u30d3 &lt;3<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong><em>If you need to speak to someone, you can find a list of organisations&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nhs.uk\/conditions\/suicide\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer nofollow\">\u3053\u308c<\/a>. If your life is in danger, call the emergency services.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>As September draws to a close, the seasons change and the leaves begin to fall from the trees, we are reminded that nothing lasts forever. The seagulls who had once taken up residence next to my bedroom window seem to have finally moved on, and \u201cthe nights are fair drawing in\u201d.&nbsp; It also marks the end of Suicide Prevention Month. The wider focus on it might disappear for another year, however the conversation absolutely&nbsp;must&nbsp;carry on, particularly at a time when so many people are continuing to struggle with the social isolation we\u2019re all experiencing right now. I\u2019ve talked previously about how our response to someone in crisis is critical. Suicide [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":553,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"slim_seo":{"title":"TW: Suicide Prevention. Let&#039;s keep talking. - humans of code","description":"As September draws to a close, the seasons change and the leaves begin to fall from the trees, we are reminded that nothing lasts forever. 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